How to make soft living a reality?

Soft living is a lifestyle that promotes wellness, simplicity, and relaxation. It is based on the idea of living life with intention and taking care of one’s body and mind. 


Unfortunately, Black women and women of color have often been denied access to this gentle, stress-free lifestyle due to a long history of oppression, discrimination, and marginalization that has impacted us. Economic opportunities, equal pay, and access to education and other resources that would make soft living easier to achieve have all been systematically withheld from these communities. Additionally, implicit biases and stereotypes may lead to a feeling that these communities do not deserve the same opportunities and resources as others. Now, I know that might sound heavy, but it is essential to acknowledge the disparities in access to soft living for Black women and women of color and to put in place measures to counteract the effects of centuries of oppression, discrimination, and marginalization that have kept them from attaining such lifestyles. Living softly is a powerful act of resistance, and I am here to empower you and help you achieve it. 


As a Black woman, I understand the pressure of having to ‘do it all’ perfectly and effortlessly in order to be happy and feel accepted. In this blog post, I’ll discuss why it’s ok for Black women and women of color to live softly and free themselves from this unnecessary burden. Living softly is not just about creating Instagram-able moments with hashtag #selfcare, but it is about accepting and loving yourself for who you are and understanding that you are enough. It’s about taking care of yourself and giving yourself the time and space to heal. 


Here are some tips to help you start living softly: 


  1. Practice self-compassion: Self-compassion means being kind to yourself instead of being hard on yourself. Say positive affirmations to yourself in the mirror, take time to do things you enjoy, and give yourself permission to make mistakes.


  1. Prioritize self-care: Make sure to take time for yourself every day. Whether it’s taking a long, hot bath or reading a book, self-care is essential for your mental health and well-being. 


  1. Set boundaries: It’s important to set boundaries and say no when you feel overwhelmed or overworked. It’s ok to take a break when you need it, and it’s ok to put yourself first. 


  1. Spend time with supportive people: Surround yourself with people who love and support you. Spend time with people who make you feel good and who will encourage you to live more softly. 


  1. Let go of perfectionism: Perfectionism can be a major roadblock in living softly. Try to let go of the need to be perfect. Remind yourself that it’s ok to make mistakes and understand that you are enough.


Living softly is something that is achievable, and it’s especially important for Black women and women of color to practice self-love and find peace within themselves. I understand the positive impact “soft living” can have, and I am here to offer my services. I provide a safe and supportive space for Black women and women of color to explore ways to be gentle with themselves and live a life with ease. If you’re ready to take the first step toward healing, please reach out today. I’d love to help you on your journey.



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My name is Jenet Dove. I’m a Licensed Professional Counselor and I help my clients, especially women begin their journey in healing towards balance and peace. 


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