Got a lot to be mad about?
I wanted to write a post based on a song by Solange Knowles titled "Mad.” This song is about the frustrations she experiences as a black woman living in a society where her opinions and emotions are often not respected or valued. She sings about the need to keep her anger and frustration inside, as she is not allowed to be openly mad. She expresses her feelings of hurt, disappointment, and sadness and speaks of her desire to be able to freely express her emotions without fear of judgment.
It’s no secret that Black women often have a lot to be mad about. From microaggressions to systemic oppression, it’s easy to understand why many Black women feel like they’re carrying the weight of the world on their shoulders. As Houston-born artist Solange Knowles sings in her song "Mad," “I got a lot to be mad about.” The truth is, we all have a right to be angry and to express our anger in healthy ways. But for Black women, it’s often difficult to do so because of the stigma and stereotypes that come with being a Black woman. Racist stereotypes, such as the angry Black women troupe, reduce us to characters rather than people. We’re often told to stay quiet, not to make a fuss, and to “just get over it." But this type of suppression of our feelings can lead to resentment, bitterness, and even depression.
So how can Black women heal from all the anger and hurt that they carry? The first step is to recognize that it’s okay to be angry. We don’t have to suppress our feelings and it’s important to give ourselves permission to express those feelings in a safe and healthy way. This could include talking to a trusted friend, journaling, or participating in activities that help us to heal our anger, like yoga or meditation. Having a strong network of friends and family can help you cope with the challenges that come with being a Black woman as well. This network can be a source of inspiration and strength, helping to remind Black women of their worth and potential, which can be easy to forget in the face of adversity. Ultimately, having a safe network of friends and family can be an invaluable resource for Black women as they navigate the many obstacles life can throw their way. If you don't have a strong support system, consider joining a support group or finding a therapist or mentor who can offer guidance and encouragement. Healing from anger and hurt is a process, and it's important to be gentle with yourself. Take time to acknowledge your feelings and give yourself room to grow and learn.
As a Black female therapist, I understand what it’s like to live in this skin and I am here to offer my services to women who look like me. I provide a safe and supportive space for Black women to explore their feelings and process their anger in a healthy way. If you’re ready to take the first step towards healing and better understanding your anger, please reach out today. I’d love to help you on your journey. Click below to book your free consultation!